Other peoples perspectives

It seems about half of the blogs shared the general idea of being scared of love. Scared of the potential heart ache, the potential despair, potential loneliness. My blog as well was filled with similar feelings, but they where "what ifs". I still believe that you need to always think "what if", but you also need to think, what would have happened if I never took of the opportunity at hand. Yes, love is a scary thing, I myself am terrified of wether or not I will even find love, (because some people don't for various reasons) but I am also excited to feel the pain that my potential feelings may bring to me. Pain is a feeling that brings progression and life lessons. If we never get the chance to be in love with somebody how will we be able to know what the feeling of being in love feels like, and how will we know what being loved will feel like. Also, if we don't allow ourselves to love, how will we allow other to love us. Love is a two way street full of commitment and the up and the downs. However, with love, you never have to face the ups and the downs alone. Never give up on what or who you love.

All-in-all, I change my perspective of "depending on the situation" to definitely love. Love is a feeling that wont be compared to any other, why would you deprive yourself of that. Even if your 'significant other' may no longer love you, who is to say you cant love them?

fluffahuzza

MOM I need my fluffahuzza. you know the thing that's brown and fuzzy I wear it over my legs like socks but made out of fur. I need it. it's brand new and I will be the coolest kid in the school if I wear it. please help me find. YOU DONT UNDERSTAND. it's limited edition. do you get it now? do you? DO YOU. find me my fluffahuzza. 

to love or not to love

while some may think this answer is an easy "to love", I think this answer is dependent on the situation. we all grow up and our first exposure to love is to our parents. we are taught and shown that you are supposed to love your parents, but what if we don't? what if we love what they do for us but we don't lovethe  type of people our parents are. Whether they be drug addicts, alcoholics, workaholics or just non-existent in our lives. what if we can't love somebody like that. then what? do we fake it? do we act like they are amazing people who you would do anything and everything for? or do we express our feelings for what they really are. Another situation where you may or may not know whether or not to love is bestfriend love. bestfriends mean everything to people for the time being. they are the ones who are always there for you and visa versa. bestfriends although sometimes change as often as the seasons, mainly because your friends personality and choices change and it make it hard for you to love who your friend is becoming. or sometimes who you friend is making you become. in a situation like this, what do you actually do? do you leave your best friend in the dust not giving him or her a reason (which will ultimately hurt you too because now you lost your bestfriend)? or do you tell your friend that they are taking the wrong path in life (even though friends aren't suppose to judge other friends) and since you are the average of who you ssurrond yourself with you don't want to make the same choices. Or what if you love your bestfriend, and your bestfriend doesn't love you anymore. how can you face this day to day knowing you have done somethig to upset your 'bestfriend' but can't figure out why. did I do something, did somebody accuse me of something, or am I making the bad choices. deciding whether to love or not to love is harder than just saying the words "I love you" mainly because you can say them with meaning or without, with reason or without.  and most of the time we say them not knowing whether or not there is a meaning behind them or wether or not we even have a reason to say the words or feel the emotion.

but what about this... what if you feel this feeling inside you. the feeling of disappointment, happiness, jealousy, sadness, are those the emotions of love? are those feelings going to be the deciding factor of wether or not you love somebody or you don't? 

how can one even know wether or not they somebody or something. 

 so now think... to love or not to love, or to mean love or to just say love... how easy is it now. 

With or Without Child

Growing up you always here the talk about wanting grandchildren and how exciting it will be to one day have grandchildren. However some girls know from a young age that their parents will never have grandchildren because there kids don’t want kids. Knowing that you doing want kids are not an easy decision considering it will affect everybody who you are close to who has some type of expectations of what your adult life should look like. Women who decide not to have children feel that they will be judged. The decision to not have a child is seen as one that is selfish when in actuality it is completely selfless. For one to decide that they couldn’t fully commit to a child is one of the most impressive decisions. I feel most people go into parenting blindly hoping for the best. For the few that choose not to go into parenting at all are the few who understand what they want in life. Women who decide that they don’t want children are the type of women who have “lack of interest in dolls or playing family pretend games with friends” in girlhood. What about the women who had interest in those things but cant decide whether or not they want to have kids? How do you know if you do or if you don’t? Do you have kids and hope you love them and care for them they way your parents did? Or as we get older do we realize that where we stand financially, professionally, and socially will decide whether or not kids would be in our future? Most of the time women who want kids don’t know why, you ask someone if they want kids they will just say “that’s just how life is” or “that’s the expectation” but its none of those. The expectation of life is what you want it to be, if your expectation is to be a bum and live on the streets then that is where your life will go, if you strive for success in your career and want to make a lot of money, that’s what you will shoot for. And if you envision your life to be jam-packed filled with kids, chances are that’s what your life will be. The expectation for what life should be isn’t going to be the same stereotypical three to four kids all living behind a white picket fence. Also, the feeling of loneliness is what some women fear in not having kids. Marriage is a part in the early stages of parent hood. Some marriages may feel content living where they live spending money on only the two of them not wanting another financial burden while others may feel like they are missing a piece to their lives. Personally, having childe would be an amazing thing I always pictured myself with four or five kids all close in age and running around yet another part of me wonders, are you actually fit for what being a mother is all about? Who knows…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjZsuCKI-Uw

Come bail me out please

E-Emily
M-Mom

E- Mom, I have something to tell you and I really dont know how youre going to take it..
M- Em, I'm your mom you can tell me anything and you know I will be here for you
E- Well, I got arrested and i am in jail
M-...
E-... im serious
M-Emily, what on earth did you get arrested for..
E- Well you see mom i got really mad at this guy because he was being mean to me and so i tried to show him who was boss, and I punched him square in the face and knocked him out cold.
M-So if he was out cold, how did you get arrested..
E- Well i waited for him to wake up to say sorry, but he  ran away because he was scared that i was going to hurt him.. So i chased after him and he called 911 and here i am.
M- Emily is this a practical joke
E-I need you to come bail me out
M-No
E-MOM
M-I dont believe you
E-why would i lie about this
M-because youre a loser
E-Please come get me, there are a alot of weirdos here and they are scaring me, please come save me i learned my lesson
M-Emily, this isnt funny.. If i get dow to the jail and YOU ARENT THERE i am going to be in jail for assault on you because this is not funny
E-Mom i swear, thank you... oh ya the bail $6000 and it has to be cash
M-Emily I hate you

and this is the dialogue between me and my mom when i got arrested, challenging huh?